There are a couple of things in live you need the most. Maslov has pointed them out in categories. From basic needs to Self-actualisation. Others have broken it down in what you need to survive. Underlying these categories we must acknowledge that we are social beings. If we live to long in seclusion, we just die or languish. One of our basic needs is to interact, in all the different ways possible. We like to be close to eachother and support others. Sometimes you are so much involved with yourself that you lose your social sensitivity to see the people around you. To have attention for what their need are. And that they need you!
A lot of studies have shown that the more you give, the better you feel about yourself. It is within our human nature, to help others. Unfortunately sometimes we think that our group or community to be separate from the rest of the world. This is obviously a mistake. Levinas, a french filosopher, has said: As soon as you put yourself out there, you are a part of the whole world. And the world will call (appel) on you. If you want it or not.
I am a psychologist and an economist and was alway drawn to the way people give meaning to their role in society. Not just how they make money, but how they can put their skills/talents to use for themselves and the society. And my first project was: me! I have fallen in love with mentoring a long time ago, and the modern times make mentoring even more interesting and easy. Society gets more complex, and although we think we can do stuff alone, we need each other more and more to have a fullfilling life. A couple of things are puzzling me: One is the cry of people for help, and at the same time the hesitation to open up - to be vulnerable - so that help can be absorped. Trust is the key factor and an issue or the solution! But trust starts with yourself. Don't wait for it that somebody gives you trust first. So why mentoring? Lets first set some groundrules about mentoring:
And sometimes it's about just shutting up, following someone you trust and experiencing what happens. So you can deside, what is best for you!
A couple of years ago I was a bit in despair. I was training people for years in mentor skills, based on what you have read and more. Most of the times with embarrasing good reviews. And now these participants asked me if I had 'software' to support the mentor - mentee relationship. They had hesitations about 'putting themselves out there' after my 3-day program. I knew 1 thing for sure: technology driven software wouldn't do the job and the odds where against me. Software was more often developed by technicians then by psychologists. But I picked up the gauntlet. After 2 years of trying, studying, investigating and developing I think we have succeeded this spring. The introduction of the online Metro platform will be in the fall and I will tell you more about it in the next weeks. But keep in mind: We will need the help of as many possible to make Learning from each other work! Please enlist yourself as mentor or as mentee by email, text, or www.mentes.me/contact.
Info@mentes.me or text me: +31638890767.
Mentoring is vele jaren mijn passie, omdat elkaar helpen een drive is die we allen met elkaar delen. Over de jaren heen is de 3-daagse training een begrip geworden in de financiële sector en het onderwijs. Ondanks dat ik het super tof vind, lijkt het soms onwerkelijk. De afgelopen 2 jaar is het Metro Platform de representatie van zoals ik kijk naar Leren van Elkaar.